Talking to Children about the Death of Queen Elizabeth II

Lots of us have felt surprise shock, grief and sadness about the passing of HM The Queen and even very young children will be picking up on the fact that a major event has happened.

Some children are very inquisitive and love to ask questions, whereas others may internalise what they pick up on through overhearing conversations or hearing snippets on the radio or tv. It’s important that we talk to children about what’s happened so they don’t worry or create scenarios in their head which are much worse than reality.

Use language that’s clear and straight forward. It might be tempting to use softer terms such as gone to sleep, lost, or passed away but this can be confusing to children who often take things literally. If she’s gone to sleep, can we wake her up? If she’s lost, can we go and find her? Saying that The Queen has died because her body stopped working will help bring clarity.

If they probe you more you could explain death as being when your heart stops beating, you stop breathing, and your brain stops thinking.

It’s a huge piece of history that we are living through so create lots of conversation with your little one’s about what an incredible lady Queen Elizabeth II was - make it a positive experience by drawing pictures of her, going to lay flowers together, showing your children videos of her and letting them watch the soldiers on the tv as the country celebrates and remembers her.

Louenna Hood is a highly qualified nanny, maternity nurse and baby and child expert. A graduate of the prestigious Norland College in 2005, she has worked all over the world for several high profile and royal families. She created the award-winning Louenna app in 2020 to guide parents through the incredible journey of parenthood. From what to buy for your newborn, to feeding, bathing, sleep routines, potty training, language development and so much more. Find out more and download the app at her website here.